I’m really nervous about this post. Which is also why I think it’s so important. This weekend, I read a handful of not-so-nice Instagram comments. One warned another blogger not to like me because of things she had read about me online. Another mentioned that I should simply “stop” and one so eloquently said “ew.”
It’s not like this is the first time I’ve received weird or unfriendly comments, but I was kind of at a point where I had just had enough! Because sometimes, enough is simply that… enough.
It was really after reaching out to the girl who was reading about me online via Facebook message that I got really upset. Lies and nasty untruths and speculations about me in a forum meant more to her than my own word. And I took that as a personal failure. Maybe I don’t seem “real” enough on the blog.
The truth is that I don’t live a photoshopped life and I don’t deliberately hide things from my blog to try to deceive anyone. Sometimes I do choose not to share, but it’s more for privacy or I simply don’t think it’s important to include or not appropriate to include in this space. I’m not here to market what a manufactured perfect life should be. My life is far from perfect and that is what I want to share!
Half of the time I’m in a state of fear of the future and the other half of the time, I’m just trying to get through one more day! I’m twenty-four, I’m still figuring it out. I don’t know what I’ll be doing a year from now… I don’t know what I want to do in five years… I can’t imagine what ten years holds for me.
But right now? Right now, it works. I’m happy and learning more about myself and growing every day. I reaffirmed that I love to blog and want to continue doing this as my job for as long as I can. Does that mean forever? I doubt it. (Frankly, very few people will be doing the exact same thing in thirty years. Blogging, certainly, is no different.) Does that make me nervous because there’s no real “career path” for bloggers? Of course!!!! But I am also confident that this kind of risk will pay off and everything, in the end, will be just fine. Because it is always fine in the end.
Yet, this doesn’t mean that every day is a walk in the park. There are days when I’m stressed or overwhelmed. I try to include those parts of my life on my blog because I think they are just as important as the happy things. I learn the most and grow the most from the bad days– I really do. And I think it’s relevant to include that because I’m just this twenty-something girl trying to figure it out like everyone else.
I don’t have the answers. I don’t live some crazy glamorous life, but there are some sparkly moments! I want to share the UPS and the DOWNS and the everythings in between. I want to share clothes and events and books and movies and little adventures that happen in my life.
And my favorite part is knowing that I’m not alone in this.
The idea for the post started as my decree of Realness… and slowly became an idea that I hope others can get behind too. In a world of Photoshop and diets and beauty products and comparisons and duck faces and debt and self-loathing and cyber bullying… maybe we’re losing our real selves a little bit in the process. Maybe I have lost myself a little bit, which caused some readers to so easily believe these lies or cause other hate-readers to create these stories, fill holes with manufactured truths, find anything to grasp onto to prove that this isn’t real.
This is real and I am real. This is my real self.
hello acne scars, nonexistent eyelashes, crazy hair, puffy eyes
My real self…
battles with anxiety every day
prefers to stay in and read
worries about the future
wishes she had longer eye lashes
enjoys caffeine
obsesses over projects and missions and visions
has uncontrollable laughing fits
has to make an effort to not work too much
is shy around strangers and is slow to let people in
wants to be accepted
gets excited over the tiniest of things
I’m going to be sharing #MyRealSelfie on Instagram too (@collegeprepster – hold me accountable!)… I like to post perfect posed photos as much as the next girl, but I don’t want those photos to represent my entire person. Personally, I think it’s totally fine to wear makeup and do your hair, but there’s something really raw about reminding yourself that you’re not only really “you” when you’re fully made up. I’d love it if you would join me too! Post your own #MyRealSelfie on Instagram today and share a couple of facts about your real self in a caption.
Maybe I’m your cup of tea, maybe I’m not. I know what I know to be true, and this is real.
xoxo
Carly, you are absolutely beautiful, both inside and out. Thank you so much for posting this. Remember that for every negative comment, you have many more positive ones. You'll do great things in your future, and know that you're not alone–many of us are just as (if not more) scared as you!
Sending love,
Chloe | Wanderlust in the Midwest
I couldn't agree more with Chloe!
And it's great to see bloggers being real about their lives, rather than editing it into the 'perfect life' for their blogs (which really frustrates me about larger blogs nowadays – it's incredibly distancing, because really, NO one lives like that).
I absolutely loved this post Carly – thanks for your honesty! 🙂 x
A Chic Lifestyle – Mentoring Female Students to Think and Achieve BIG.
I agree with Chloe and Sanam.
I will fully admit that I have always thought you had a pretty perfect life, but never thought you weren't being "real" with your readers. After speaking with you and listening to you speak at NYWICI, I realized that you legitimately love what you're doing and I could tell that you were definitely shy and that's what makes you real!
Don't let these silly people bring you down – keep doing your thing! All of your true readers will always be beside you no matter what!
Dana | Pink Champagne Problems
Thanks, girls!
You are an inspiration in my life, Carly, and bring happiness and positivity to so many! Thank you for reminding me of all the little things in life to appreciate 🙂
Thanks for posting this Carly – it really does take guts….and of course YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL even without the makeup, flat-iron, etc!
I love this post. Extremely inspiring, just like you!
Tori
http://www.thegarnetdiaries.com
I love this post! Although I haven't been following your blog for long (since October), I've found what you post to be the most realistic of any blogger. Predominately, "lifestyle" blogs involve professionally taken photos, hours of preparation, and epitomize a glamourous lifestyle; far from realistic. I love how honest you are, about when you were in school, to struggles in the workforce, to trying to decide on an outfit to wear, and everything in between. I find your blog to be inspirational, and wholeheartedly encourage you to continue as is. Keep up the good work!
-Katherine
http://scallopedandbows.blogspot.ca
Carly,
As someone who has been following your blog for a year now, I want to say that I think you are such a beautiful, inspiring, and authentic person. For what its worth, I think you do a more than adequate job of letting readers in on the good, bad and in-between in your life via the blog. I appreciate this post and think that if you want to be more "real" and "raw" on your blog and instagram, then do so. But remember you don't have to share more of yourself to satisfy the naysayers and critics of the interwebs. You have been more vulnerable and real online than many would dare to be and for that I say brava! Keep doing what you're doing and remember to do whatever makes you feel good.
Much love,
Allison 🙂
I don't understand why people critic someone they don't know. I would react like you even if I accept that there will always be people who don't like me, I don't think they have to critic you in public. I'm sorry for you. Now in my opinion you're real even with make up (that doesn't change who you are), and I understand you because I don't really know what I want to do with my life… I am a teacher who started this year to study law. I want to be prepared the day I want to quit my job. I'm anxious about that because I always feel making the wrong choice… So be yourself because you are a great girl!
It's also so sad that we are hyper-critical of ourselves. In your caption underneath your selfie you point out four "negative" qualities about your appearance. If you hadn't listed these ("crazy hair", "puffy eyes") I never would have noticed them! It's just YOU. We should look at a person as a whole, not as a culmination of imperfections. You are beautiful 🙂
"We should look at a person as a whole, not a culmination of imperfections."
What a beautiful phrase! That's something we could probably all stand to think about a little bit more, especially when looking in the mirror. Thank you! 🙂
Ah yes! Such a good point. I think I put that line there to just say, "here I am completely… even the things I don't love." and demonstrate that it's EVERYTHING about the person that makes her who she is! (Although, I will admit those things are totally things I would focus on in not a positive light…)
Proud of you Carly, and very inspired by you! No one can please EVERYONE so keep your chin up and just do you.
I love this notion of being real on social media lately – we do tend to pose and prop pictures, showcasing the best version of our life. I commend you for your bravery in showcasing the other side.
Not sure if you've seen it, but Real Simple is doing a series on this topic on social media this week around the hashtag #rsgetreal.
oh! thanks for letting me know about Real Simple; going to check it out.
Way to go! I hate how everyone feels the need to be so perfect all of the time by hiding themselves under lies and makeup (not saying that you do at all, just a general statement!). Sometimes I wish people would just be more genuine and up front about things.
Totally. I really couldn't believe how nervous I was to post a makeup-less photo… it was alarming so I knew it was even more important!
Literally in LOVE with this. I see all the trash that gets written about you and countless other bloggers on trash sites like GOMI, and it makes me realize how strong you have to be to share your life. For every nasty person on the internet, there's five more of us who love to watch your journey through your blog. This post takes serious balls and it's refreshing to read such a raw and honest post. You go girlfraaand!
This is AMAZING, you're inspiring me to do a post like this on my blog. Ignore the haters… I know, easier said then done, but GOMI IS STUPID and full of BULLIES. xo
Carly, this is a beautiful post. It is amazingly inspirational, and I hope you don't take what other people said about you and believe it. It isn't true. You are an amazingly cool person. I love reading this blog BECAUSE I love reading what it is like living in New York. You provide an amazing viewpoint, and you are very real in what you said. Keep it up, and remember, live your dreams! 😉
xoxo
Gaby
This is such a beautiful post! You are so genuine and you are such an inspiration! I absolutely love this blog and aspire to be as brave, strong, and successful as you are! If only we all could be comfortable enough in our own skin to post "real selfies" more often!
xoxo
Sydney
Toodlebelle's Blog
Carly,
Not only do I appreciate this post because I too try hard to be my real self and I deal with some of the same 'real stuff' as you do. It is kinda a relief to know one is not alone and I want to share with you that you aren't alone.
This is amazing and I love it!
xoxo
Brooke
http://www.inaworldofbees.com
Definitely not alone Miss 😉 xo
what a brave post! you're beautiful, carly.
I admire many bloggers who've recently been posting about and bringing attention to cyber bullying. Also, admitting to the anxiety, personal disappointment, and insecurity they feel on a daily basis by having a blog. It's a courageous act reminding us that you're all real people!
Carly, I'm a fellow 24-year-old trying to find my path and follow my dreams. I find your blog and you inspirational especially for taking this giant risk by being fully immersed in your passion and making it your full-time job! Keep doing what you're doing because I think you're an honest voice for the current struggles twenty-somethings face.
Keep being real! Keep being you! Keep inspiring us all!
Ashley
Carly you are so inspirational to me in so many ways, I'm so sorry you have to deal with so many crazy and mean comments. Of course you're not perfect, nobody is perfect but your here…on the internet, putting SO much of your life on display and consequently you've helped and inspired SO many people.
In the words of Taylor Swift, "People throw Rocks at things that shine".
I love your blog and always will!
xxoo,
Jordyn
Totally love T. Swift, so obviously loved that you included that line in the comment. +1!!!
Wow. I loved reading this entry. Thank you for being so strong and standing up to the "haters." You are a beautiful person and I enjoy your blog so much!
You are amazing!
<3
I'm really sorry to hear about this, people hiding behind the screen thinking the words they utter are less hurtful or more okay than saying them to someones face, is just awful!! The reason I really enjoy reading your blog is that you are an inspiring person, you work really had (maybe sometimes too hard) for what you want and nothing in your blog reads that you're living a glamorous life, popping champagne every other day, just jet setting. Sure you may be living a great life, but your blog isn't just about all the great things but also about dealing with stuff, making sometimes tough decisions, having breakdowns and talking about those overwhelming moments we all struggle with. I praise you for still keeping some of your integrity, despite you blogging every day about what's going on in your life. The blogs I do not read are the ones giving you every detail about their life, gladly telling the word how they just broke up with their bf or how that have been constipated for the last couple of days, and always just showing off how their life is soooooo Amazing! This is why I don't follow any Swedish blogs, they don't inspire me at all- you do!! GO GIRL!
I'm inspired by you seriously every single day, Carly. If it wasn't for reading your blog, I'm really not sure how well I would have coped with my anxiety through the last year of high school!
Thank you so much for continuing to put your life out there through this blog! I know it must be so hard sometimes with the negativity that comes with being successful, so thank you!!!
xo Amy | amyvnorris.com
Carly, you are awesome!
Carly,
This is such a BRAVE post of yours. Well, I'm totally saluting you for doing this. I'd admire you much. Never mind criticisms it's just nonsense. Who are them to judge you anyway? Just believe in you self and continue to inspire us. You're a great woman Carly, I believe on that though I just know you thru this blog. Keep the positive vibes, AJA. 🙂
XOXO,
yhadz
http://www.differentchainsoflife.info/
"positive vibes" has turned into a motto amongst my friends! such a great outlook and attitude!
Kudos to you for not back lashing at those who choose to criticize you from behind the computer screen. You are truly such an inspiration to me. Keep up YOUR positive attitude, ignore the ignorant and you are beautiful with and without makeup 🙂
You are AMAZING. Don't forget that. And just for the record, the other day I was thinking about several blogs I follow and definitely decided that you felt one of the most real. I love that you're hard working, classy, and quirky. You're such an inspiration! I think a lot of girls can you relate to you, and that's what makes you so special. Keep being you! I love your blog. 🙂
I'm really sorry about everything that happened on Instagram! It is sad that people can be that, but you are an absolutely wonderful person! You are my inspiration and I am so happy you were brave enough to write this post. Hang in there girly 🙂
Hunter
Prep on a Budget
"To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing." Aristotle
One of my favorite quotations 😉
Amazing post!!! I follow you on IG because I have a 22 year old college/"sorority girl" daughter. I'm now going to be a follower because you are an amazing and brave writer as well. I'm constantly amazed by the rudeness people feel they have the right to share on social media. Good grief- your name and face is right there next to your rudenesss 🙂 You keep on doing this if you love it because more people enjoy and admire your work than those few rude people make you feel.Stay strong – I know you can and beleive me, looking back from over 50 to the 20's it is sad to let other people push and shape you with their rudeness that probably stems from their unhappiness instead of finding your own way through your true self!!! You are doing just fine and acting like a lady doing it – how nice!!
As annoying as people can be, you don't have to prove anything to anyone. Anyone who is stupid and naive enough to believe that someone is perfect and has no flaws has obvious insecurities themselves and needs to stop. Your blog doesn't have to be a platform for this, it is not what you set out to start blogging about and for most people, the fact that you have insecurities and flaws is a given because let's face it, EVERYONE DOES. I appreciate this post but just Ignore these people and move on, you blog is amazing just the way it is.
Carly, you should know you are not alone with what you're feeling and with what you're going through. Most twenty-something people are like this or similiar. We're at a point where we're done with puberty and are supposed to "have it all figured out" by now. But Life isn't like that. We're moving out, living on our own and struggling with dealing with new cities, how to pay rent and leaving a part of us behind as well as starting a new chapter.
I could never relate to your Blog more than today. I might have started reading it a year ago but today's post is my favourite. I can relate. And so can many others I guess.
You changed. But that happens within 5 years of blogging. You are not in college anymore. That happens to. This is normal.
No one expected you to stay the same over the years, especially when you're in a phase where changing is so natural. Yes, maybe you should rebrand. Yes, maybe you should think of other ways do get the best out of your blog. But maybe, just maybe are you trying to do this. Maybe you are giving your best. You just can't, because you're holding yourself back. Or you can't because you haven't decided yet. Whatever it is is, it's all by yourself, noone else should judge you about your personal decicions. Especially not the people who hide behind a screen and doing a less famous blog.
There are mean and rude people out there, there always will be. It's hard dealing with hate but look at you. You we're so insecure about posting this post and you recieved such great responses to believe in yourself and keep continuing what you love.
Your selfie is beautiful. You look so good without make-up. Maybe different, but good!
There are lots of people who are dealing with axiety or worse things too. Keep in mind you're not alone or not good enough because you're struggeling.
It's okay to worry about the future because it can be a scary thing when you don't have everything figured out.
As much as you wish you could change your features, they make you you and you are great as you are!
What I'm trying to say is we all have our weird sides, our lovely sides, our business sides and our evil sides. Just because some people only show you one sides doesn't mean there isn't anything else there. The person you admire for being so cool and calm? Maybe she's just playing it up. Maybe she's really nervous underneath. You'll never know.
I'm proud of you for doing that post, for sharing your thoughts and just being real. That's amazing!
A twenty-something girl who hasn't figured it all out, still is giving her best and trying to make a living on her own. Someone with who's also shy and would really enjoy being your friend because from what I can tell you're a great human being. Someone who's spending too many money on Starbucks while I should buy something real and healthy from the money. Someone who is as real as you are.
Please remember you are loved and accepted.
thank you eleanor for taking time to write such a thoughtful comment… means so much to me!! xo
I really admire your courage! You are absolutely beautiful, with or without makeup! I think people writing mean Instagram comments (who don't even know you) says more about them than yourself!
This took bravery, guts, and self acceptance. Thank you for sharing. Its always fun to pop over to your blog for an escape, online window shopping, and excellent writing
I'm a 40YO still trying to figure it out…but one thing I can tell you is that hateful comments and actions are born out of insecurity. One of my favorite quotes is.."They don't have to like you and you don't have to care". Stay true to yourself and ignore the haters!
Good for you! I think you are doing a great job – I love reading your blog everyday, I love that you are running your own business and able to have a successful life in NYC, that is a huge accomplishment. Keep up the good work and dont listen to jealous bloggers who are just being mean. You have fabulous style and flair and it shows in your blog. Thanks for writing!
I love this. get.it.girl.
I've been reading your blog for awhile now, and I just want to say that I could not disagree more with the fakeness accusation. I love your blog, and in fact, you've inspired me to try my hand at blogging (and I'm sure you've inspired so many others!). I think what makes your blog so appealing is that you do reveal so much of yourself and your personality. I like looking to you for advice because I know that I can believe it. Personally, I find you to be inspirational, and I too hope you are blogging for a long time!
Best,
Ally
http://www.wellfedprinciples.com
This was a really brave post, Carly, and I want to affirm you for it. We all know that sharing our lives on social media opens us up to both love and hate. However, this fact doesn't excuse people from rude and hurtful behavior, and I think you've address it in a very positive way.
From what I've seen reading your blog over the last few years, you've been (appropriately) open about some of the different things you struggle with, and I've admired your honesty. But I do think it's your personal prerogative to choose just how much of your life you want to make public. I'm also someone who is more introverted and prefers a few close friends to a loud room full of strangers. Even though I'm careful around people I don't know well, I also want to be liked and accepted. This can make me very sensitive to criticism, so I think I can somewhat relate to where you're coming from.
I will say that as a woman who has make it (more or less) successfully through my 20s and just enjoyed my 30th birthday a few months ago, there still always be those women how have apparently never moved beyond high school in maturity. However, it does get easier and easier to ignore them. 🙂 And while we may become more settled in and focused in life, I don't think there is ever an age where we will have everything all figured out. But I believe the journey becomes more enjoyable and rewarding with each passing year. Enjoy where you are and make the most the day you are given!
Agreed 100%. I had no idea what I was getting myself into with this blog when I started. (I mean, my mom and grandma only read it for years!) It was one of those things where I knew I was putting things "out there," but the effects weren't immediate so it didn't really matter for a while. Slowly I've realized just what I've gotten into. Some days I completely embrace it and other days are harder. But… I have decided that I LOVE blogging too much to stop and that the positives GREATLY outweigh the negatives.
This post is me saying…. here I am! Take me or leave me, but this is who I am and I'm comfortable with myself and my blog. 🙂
I really enjoyed this post!
Carly I'm so sorry that happened to you! You know you don't have to explain yourself to your true readers though but I'm glad you did! I'm sure it was not easy! 🙂
Kat
katbousson.blogspot.com
This was such a brave post Carly. Thank you for sharing it. I've been guilty of feeling envy at what looks almost like a dream life that you have but you always remind me it's about going at your own pace and doing the best for you, not competing at everything or comparing your life with others'. Thank you. My friend Carrie at @thisfitchick is a personal trainer and she wrote good posts on how to look at fitness bloggers and not feel overwhelmed by their progress. It addresses some of the same issues here.
http://thisfitchick.net/blogfun/lean-and-toned-2/why-you-may-need-to-stop-following-me-and-other-fitness-girls/
http://thisfitchick.net/blogfun/lean-and-toned-2/fitness-girl-lying/
http://instagram.com/p/hELGfpGvKx/
oh! thanks for sharing, going to check it out now!
I admire your post. As a fellow blogger I know how hard it is to put yourself and your feelings out there for everyone to see. I think it is wonderful that you are standing up to those who are trying to put you down and know that for every one person who has something meant to say there are 10 that have something nice to say!
Great post, Carly! I believe I have come across some posts in possibly the same forum as these people, and I am pleased to say that I never believed anything. As a blogger myself, I believe that we all don't have to share everything about us. I'm sure those people that criticized you wouldn't want to share every detail of their life either and wouldn't like people not believing their own word.
I wish you the best in blogging! You have grown a lot in the past few months. You go girl! 🙂 Keep your head up!
I admire you for putting yourself out there but you should not have to. Why follow someone's insta or blog just to tear them down? Keep doing what you are doing, however you want to do it. I love it!
Thank you so much for this Carly! Your blog is relate-able and really helps ME get though my day-to-day anxieties. Thank you for making me feel not so alone in this crazy world! Sometimes I walk around and look at people and feel like they just have it all figured out, and some how I missed the memo! But, now I know I am not alone. Thank you again, Carly!
– xoxo Amy
One thing I've learned over the years (I'm 23 so you've probably already realized this) is that jerks are going to be just that: jerks. You can't change them. It's literally ingrained into their very being. At my current job, I had to take two scientifically-backed personality tests. Through reviewing my own Strengths test results (one of which was Winning Other Over and another of which was Positivity) I realized that I was setting myself up on a tee for jerks to take a swing at.
With that realization came another: these are unhappy people that will take swings at you. They aren't leading fulfilling lives that make them feel happy and satisfied. A lot of them are kids who became bored of bullying kids their own age and attack through a veil of anonymity online. They're like that friend you have that ALWAYS has a negative comment to make about every situation. Do you listen to them? No! They just drag everyone down. So don't listen to these people.
From a girl who was bullied as a kid, just realize this: while you're happy, doing what you love, successful and flourishing after all of the stress and hard work, these people will be unwilling or unable to dig themselves out of the deep, bitter hole in which they currently stand. Their hateful, unkind ways won't take them far and in the near future, they'll have fallen far, far behind you. I watched it happen to everyone who ever bullied me. That's just the type of person a bully is.
And while right now you may hurt and feel like you have failed, when you look back you'll realize how truly insignificant they are.
I hope that you get some kind of comfort from this. I read your blog when I have down time at work and while you've gotten me hooked on Kate Spade (everything is so cute and clean looking!) you've also helped me learn to save money and stick to a budget and loads of things about organization and confidence. I love seeing your blog every day and I really hope that makes you smile!
thanks for the thoughtful comment and sharing a little bit of your own story!! xoxo
This is so brave of you! The fact that people will be mean just for the sake of being mean is still a mind-blowing concept to me, and unfortunately it is the new norm in today's generation. Props to you for standing up for yourself in the classiest and most inspiring way possible! Thank you for all that you do and being a source of positivity and inspiration for so many people. 🙂
-Amanda
Carly,
You should never have to feel like you should apologize for having such a fabulous life! You have worked so hard for everything that you have. I love following your blog. It's comforting to know that its okay to be in your early 20's and not have it all together. Thanks for being such a positive role model for ladies in this generation!
Dear Carly,
Doesn't it suck to grow up? I'm a couple of years younger than you, and I appreciate your words. We're getting older, and awkwardly, are still kind of children floating around trying to make it work. I just deleted my Facebook in some act of defiance against losing my humanity, it scared me that I was being consumed by a persona.
We make mistakes. We grow. We're more than makeup, jobs, blogs. We're people.
Most of us are just cheering you on!
Thanks for always showing the glitz and the not so glamorous! You ARE an inspiration whether it's your chic style posts, instagrams of your adventures in the city, or the honest accounts of life lessons.
Tia | http://www.bigcitytyro.com
You ARE beautiful, Carly- inside and out! We all have flaws / imperfections / whatever… But those aspects are beautiful because they are things that all of humanity shares. No one is without shortcomings. By coming clean about yours, you are inspiring other women to let themselves be seen as they are, and not as a cookie-cutter image that women think they need to be.
As for those who write hateful comments online- hiding behind the internet is a cowardly way to act. Valid criticisms can be expressed respectfully (it IS possible). Those who resort to rude comments are revealing their inability to have respectful discussion, which speaks to their character. Just keep your head held high above the people who seek to bring you down, and you will come out on top.
Thank you so much for this post! It's really inspirational. I was reading this on my way home on the metro and was tempted to snap a selfie then and there. That's my real self…frazzled from teaching all day long, tired, and with messy bangs. There's so much hate out there, especially when you're in the spotlight. Keep doing your thing, and don't let them take away your smile!
Fantastic post! It is hard to hear those things, but know they often come from a jealous bitter place. You are an amazing post (as evidenced by the above post) and honest about far more than most about your life. Don't let them get to you, they aren't worth your time. You are doing an amazing job here on the blog (I should know, I read it every day!) and I look forward to every post (especially the ones with your adorbs puppy). You are very much beloved, here and in the interwebs!
Thank you for this! You're beautiful and wonderful. Don't worry about the haters.
I can't believe that people talk about you on a forum and spend time in their day hating on you. I've been following your blog for a couple of years now, I think, and honestly it's not my number 1 go-to blog, but I do read most of your posts and have enjoyed getting to know you and you've posted some really helpful, relevant stuff for people in our age group. This might sound weird, but reading blogs, just like reading fiction or articles or whatever, is a leisure activity. It's something I enjoy, it's something that has changed my life in a lot of way (I've even started blogging part time myself), but it's something to get your panties in a was over. Anyone who spends time hating on bloggers or scoping out information about them to degrade them has some serious time on their hands and needs to get a life. Jeez.
-Jen
yourstrulyjen.com
You are absolutely gorgeous, and as a 21 year old who deals with insecurities and anxieties everyday, you and your blog really inspire me 🙂
Love reading your blog posts…you're an amazing girl- don't let those petty comments destroy you! Can so easy relate, thanks for sharing! XO
Knowing you since you were in elementary school (and that's been over half of your life), I want to say how truly amazing it has been to watch you transform into the beautiful young woman you are today! I remember you quite well sitting in my classroom-always eager to learn, always wanting to achieve, always participating in whatever would come your way, always adorable, always with a book, always kind, always grounded, always sincere and always real! So as I read your blog, pretty much on a daily basis, I am honored to be able to witness what you are doing with your life. Carly, will continue to do great things because you are who YOU are, you have a supportive family and friends that will always be there for you. I look forward to your year of "Making it Happen"! xoxo Mrs. Karup 🙂
Omg! Thank you Mrs. Karup 🙂 🙂 You're so sweet and I miss you!!
Haters are SO weird. Sometimes it's weird enough leaving comments to strangers on blogs and such and it's especially weird to leave mean ones. Those are ugly people who say mean things to people. Just because you are a blogger doesn't mean you have to be completely transparent about every aspect of your life. I think it's great to celebrate the good things and the UPs. It spreads positivity and can be encouraging. Thanks for sharing!
You are ever so lovely, inside and out. I'm sorry to hear that you had to deal with the negativity, but I think you've handled it in a very respectful, mature and positive way, so kudos (mega kudos) to you. Also, I can not even believe that you are only 24! Seriously, I would have thought that you were older only because of the way that you carry yourself. I adore you and even more than ever now. xo
I admire very much how you handled this. Actually, it kind of makes me want to cheer. 🙂 Keep going & know we're behind you because you love what you're doing.
This usually makes me feel better in situations like these:
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." – Eleanor Roosevelt
xoxo Ellen
Firstly – many women/people out there hide behind their computers and think it's ok to cyber bully others. It's not. I'm 30 years old and read your blog from time to time – if I didn't like what you had to say or whatnot – I would stop reading. I wouldn't go after others in a mean attempt to take you down or make you feel bad about yourself regardless of what I thought about you.
At 20 you'll not have this crazy thing called "life" figured out – hell – you won't at 30 either, trust me!! But that's the beauty of life. We change and evolve and we make mistakes and we learn from them (hopefully) and we eventually become the person that we're destined to be.
Keep your head always held up high and don't let people that are jealous of your successes, your life, try to bring you down. It's not worth it. Keep doing you!!
-ashley @ sunnysideshlee.com
I'm glad you posted this! You're beautiful, with or without makeup, and I love to read your blog! <3
Kara (threegirlsatcollege.blogspot.com)
I seriously admire you so much. You have inspired me in so many ways and never have I ever thought you weren't real. Thank you for everything you hve done. Your blog is my bible.
Unfortunately, part of living on the internet means that people will always be willing to say something mean about you that they would never have the courage to say to your face. I agree with some of the other commenters that you do seem to keep it pretty real on the blog. Also, successful people will always draw criticism, whether or not it's deserved. If you can make your blog your career, then clearly you're doing something right!
As for #myrealselfie, I too am 24 and I stopped wearing makeup 3 or 4 years ago, save for a handful of special occasions. It's liberating to feel comfortable in your own skin. I think we only feel like we look "bad" without makeup because we're so used to our makeup-face when we wear it every day. Once you adjust to it, you realize you're not any less beautiful without it.
Good for you for standing up for yourself and recognizing your strengths. We all have faults we wish we didn't and it's unfortunate that a place that is as inspiring as the internet, is also so cruel sometimes. You're an inspiration – keep being you!
You are gorgeous! A true role model. The internet is a vicious place but so proud of you for taking a stand against online bullying. Your success speaks for itself and you have a kind heart. xoxo
Thank you for that post — you were already one of my favorite bloggers but my respect for you just grew 1000x more. That took a lot of courage and I really admire that!
xo
Kirsten
http://www.redwhiteandbows.com
This post just shows you're beautiful inside and out. And those people who leave negative comments or judge you are just expelling negative energy into the world because of their own personal insecurities and deficiencies. What forms character and strength is the ability for a person to respond to that unkindness with only positive energy and goodness, which is what you have done. Thanks for sharing such a real and honest presentation of yourself, not just today but everyday you blog! xo
I really appreciate a post like this. I've observed a lot of mean stuff thrown at people on the internet, being an avid blog follower, and I really admire your ability to handle a situation like this with such dignity and grace. Thank you for your constant positivity toward uncomfortable situations. We all make mistakes, we all are a little bit insecure, we all are just attempting to figure this life thing out. I appreciate being able to read along with your journey.
-Alyssa Jane
Hi Carly,
I found your blog about a year ago and fell in love with your posts. I love organizing and anything to do with pens or stationary. When I first started reading your blog I wanted to be you. I love the lifestyle you live and had always dreamed of going to a prestigious school, Columbia to be exact, and living in NYC. I didn't really have any friends in high school and didn't really understand the aspects of being a teenager until I met my best friend, now boyfriend, and he opened up my eyes to a whole other world. I learned that I could still include some prep in my life while figuring out who it is I truly want to be. I now attend the University of Maryland College Park and am applying to the business school for Accounting.You're blog has helped me discover who I was while not loosing the dream I had always pictured. School was always important to me and I now hope to share my love for education with the world. No, I do not want to be a teacher (I would be horrible!). I want to use my accounting degree to go into cities and developing countries and help them build schools. I have always believed that every child deserves an education, but I believe even more that they deserve an EQUAL education. You have been such an inspiration to me, when you accepted my request on LinkedIn I actually screamed, and I think what makes you such an inspiration is that you are just another girl.
Thank you for starting The College Prepster!
Have a great day,
Shannon
P.S. You inspired me to start my own blog! I now wish I had the skill to make my blog look like yours <3
Wow!! Go you!!! Sounds incredible; love what you want to do and wish you the best of luck!! xo
I love this post! Very inspiring and so truthful. Ignore the negativity. There will always be people who get pleasure from putting other people down.
I've been reading your blog for a while now and your blog inspired me too start my own.
Krystal
http://kkornerblog.com
Great message-I'm so happy you posted all of this. It's very strong, empowering, inspiring, and of course, REAL. With all of the media and internet and such, it's so hard to stay grounded on who we are. You are so beautiful no matter what! Thank you for the inspiration 🙂
You go girl 🙂 xo
I think you are amazing. You're my role model and if that freaks you out, I'm sorry but I think you are so brave and wonderful for posting this and for posting every day, no matter how you feel. You share things that make you real and that is all we could ask from a blogger like yourself. You do an amazing job and this post was truly one of your best. THANK YOU!
Briana
royallypink.blogspot.com
This is an amazing post, Carly. I think you look GORGEOUS (despite, what you see as flaws). As cliche as it sounds, I'm sure those girls who were talking about you on online forums are just jealous or looking to make themselves feel better somehow. You inspire SO many people (including K & myself), so you're doing an amazing job.
xo, B
http://www.BKCsquared.com
I've been a big fan of you and your blog before you posted this, but I'm even more in love now. Thanks for always being you!
People who deliberately take the time out of their days to be mean to other people or leave negative comments on a public forum are not good people to being with. I think the reason they do this is part jealously and part unhappiness in their own life. All YOU can do is be yourself – and if someone doesn't like it, who cares 🙂 I think you're awesome!
I agree with Holly C–People who take the time out of their day to publicly make mean comments to someone who is trying to live their dreams is not happy with their own lives. Its hard to do, but you have to look past their ill behavior and keep going! Everyone who is successful had people doubting them and it only made them stronger. Dont give up on the account of someone else's lack of success or happiness. Be yourself and that will be enough! Your blog and your work truly inspire and motivate people! Keep going Carly 🙂
This post brought me to tears. Carly, you are a brave and beautiful woman! I have always been in awe of you and you just proved why. You are incredible!
Aw! You're so sweet!
Good for you girl! After being violently attacked on the internet to a point where the police had to get involved I can totally understand where you are coming from and I finally said screw them! I finally feel confident and comfortable enough with myself to start blogging again and it feels great! So really good for you! You are beautiful both inside and out!
xx
Lauren Elizabeth
Petite in Pearls
omg! I'm so sorry to hear that… but I'm happy to hear that you're confident and comfortable again!! go you!
Hey Carly,
thank you so much for this post! I follow your blog nearly 4 years now and you've always inspired me. I remember how your posts about Henley made me want to go there and how your wardrobe posts helped me finding my style. Again, thank you so much! You're a wonderful, inspiring, amazing, beautiful, intelligent and brave person. Stay as you are and ignore these people who are just jealous and coward.
lots of hugs
Elisabeth
I love this post. THANK YOU!!
Hey Carly,
Not a huge commenter but have read your blog for years as we are around the same age, and have shared many of the same struggles. One – screw anyone who says anything negative. Two – own your space, own your world. We all portray our own life online and can be selective of what we share. Thats the point. Your not fake, your selective, which is smart! Just wanted to share a bit of encouragement – keep going girl. #MakeItWork
Best,
Mallory
Carly, don't let those haters bring you down. This was a very daring thing to do, and you should be proud of how strong of an individual you are. You post the positives about life and it gives hope and encouragement to those who read it. So what if you don't post about every second of every bad day. In my opinion that would just be complaining and depressing. I enjoy your upbeat posts, pictures, and tweets. Keep up the happy and exciting life. MOST of us love it!
I think you are quite brave for putting yourself out there everyday and admitting your faults, not everyone could do that! You go girl, don't listen to someone who spreads negativity through a screen!
-Alex
http://www.monstermisa.blogspot.com/
Carly,
I think this post has to be one of your best ones yet. It really baffles me how some people go out of their way to point out someone else's faults. I don't know what happened, but seriously those people need to be sent a blessing. The ones who are not happy with themselves are them. Speaking from personal experience, dealing with negative people can really feel bad sometimes, but in my opinion (and in the opinion of many others) you are an exceptional human being. Your blog has helped so many readers go through hard times, myself included. And I don't think at all that you hide anything. You're a young woman who has worked extremely hard for what she has and who knows how to appreciate the good stuff. I always look up to your blog for guidance, inspiration and to reassure myself that it can get better, and it will. I see you as one of my main role models and I am absolutely sure a lot of other people do too. You have a talent for making people who don't know you personally feel like they do know you and helping others with their own lifes is just something amazing. For that I want to thank you.
Don't listen to anyone who tries to bring you down because that just means they aren't happy with what they have. Keep being the upbeat, cheerful and great person that you are. Like they say "Haters gonna hate." Ha! 🙂
Love from Mexico, – Adrienne. / http://thechiccomedienne.blogspot.mx/
P.S. Did you watch Frozen already? I think you'll really enjoy it, it's about two sisters so you might wanna watch it with yours! 😀
Thanks for the comment! I haven't seen Frozen, but I'll add it to my list of must-sees!
Wow – your best (and most authentic and original) post yet. Bravo! Own it. Remember – you are young – once you hit your 40s it's liberating. You don't worry about what others think (but it's ok because you worry about what others think about your kids…) I love reading your blog and admire your ability to be so independent and ambitious at such a young age. DO IT! OWN IT! LOVE IT!
This was such an awesome post Carly. I just don't understand why other people are so mean!! It makes me so mad/sad. I think you are such an inspiration for so many bloggers. I know it is hard to ignore the mean people, but you have so many readers out there that love you!! You look gorgeous in your picture.
Very brave and honest of you…good for you, Carly!! You are a sweetie and it is HUGE that you share so much with your readers! But, this blog should be a creation of what you want it to be…a place to come for sparkly fun escape, or WHATEVER YOU want it to be. You have often shared your insecurities, etc., which is lovely, but no one should make you. Haters are just jealous….;) You are awesome and I love your blog! xoxo
Very brave and honest of you…good for you, Carly!! You are a sweetie and it is HUGE that you share so much with your readers! But, this blog should be a creation of what you want it to be…a place to come for sparkly fun escape, or WHATEVER YOU want it to be. You have often shared your insecurities, etc., which is lovely, but no one should make you. Haters are just jealous….;) You are awesome and I love your blog! xoxo
I can't describe how much I loved this post! I love that you post whenever something overwhelms or freaks you out because it reminds me that it's ok to be overwhelmed or freaked out and that you don't have to be perfect all the time. Perfectionism is something I really struggle with, so it's nice to know that someone I look up to (and follow religiously on instagram and pinterest) isn't always perfect. Haters gonna hate but don't let that drown out the voices of those of us who love you!
You are definitely not alone. I'm 31 and I still don't have it figured it, not even a little bit. I have a strong idea about what I want to do, but I have a long way to go before my dream is fully realized. In the meanwhile, I work hard, am learning to be patient with myself and others, and taking things as they come. That's all we can do.
Carly, you're awesome! Ignore those people who post negative things, it's pathetic really that they take time out of their day to criticize how you spend yours. Love this post and good for you!!!!
BTW…this post is extremely powerful and inspirational for everyone. I'm sixteen and this post really spoke to me…you're such an inspiration
This is an amazing post and I think that it reminded us all to be the same person online and in real life. This is awesome and I've seen #myrealselfie a few times on Instagram today!
True, the people over at the GOMI forum have questioned certain ambiguous aspects of your blogging activities, but isn't it obvious that there will always be people wondering about things that aren't making sense? Either make yourself clear and quit with the vagueness, or grow a thicker skin and acknowledge that, yes, these people will always be here, and no, they are neither "haters" nor "jealous". Many of the ladies on the forum have actually talked about how they like you, and have made various criticisms in hope of you taking it constructively, and bettering your blog and self. ~Sincerely, a fan. (I mean it)
Anyone who wants to give constructive criticism can absolutely do so. Email is the best way since I check that every day… but I don't read that forum and don't really think anonymous accounts have much validity to begin with so it's just not the right place to do so.
This post, at the end of the day, is about being 100% comfortable with myself and my blog and being happy with it just the way it is. Turning the page to a new chapter in my life where I am going to just keeping on doing me 🙂
You do not owe anyone anything.
Carly! I loved meeting you last night girl! This is an awesome post! I think it's great that you are doing what you love and sharing who you are with us. People are cruel – don't listen to the haters. Keep doing what you do 🙂
xx Kelsey – tortoiseinthesun.com
This post is extremely powerful and makes me admire you even more, Carly!! Please never let rude comments stop you from what you are doing! You are an inspiration to thousands of young people, especially me. I'm glad to see that I'm not the only 20 – something year old that doesn't have life figured out yet. Please never stop being you!!
Morgan
Hi Carly,
I love reading your blog, your writing always seems so relatable to me.I started reading college prep as a freshman, now I am a junior in college, it has been with me all the way! I appreciate your bravery in confronting bullying- currently I am having trouble with some real life bullying (ah, I know! In college, of all things!) so I just wanted to say thanks for keeping it real with your readers!
Sometimes we just have to take off the pearls and lipstick because enough is enough. I've always loved your blog, this just reminded me why.
Best,
Allison
http://www.clearingpreppysname.com
I've never commented on any of your posts before, even though I check your blog every day. I'm commenting now, though, as this post means so much to me. Thank you so, so much for this Carly! As a high school student at an all girls prep school, there is so much focus on competition and perfection, both physical and otherwise.It's refreshing and comforting to be able to read your posts and see how level-headed and REAL you are. I look up to you so much. As a girl not much older than me who's worked through her obstacles and is living out her dreams, you inspire me to believe in myself. I absolutely loved this post, it's so important to remind ourselves and everyone around us that we're real people with flaws and strengths. There are so many girls in high school that you inspire to stay true to themselves and not cave to peer pressure and the teen culture. By presenting your ups and downs to us, you show us that we're going to be okay. We're all going to make it, and there will probably be some bumps in the road, but we're going to get there. I hope you see this Carly, thank you so much.
xo Chandler
May I just say – good on you Carly for putting yourself out there like that. You always share what is appropriate, and you absolutely have the right to keep some things just for yourself. I think when you share the negative, you do so in a way that is cathartic for you, but also encourages others to seek support and reminds us all to self-love. But beyond yourself, you've also connected all these like-minded women to each other. I started reading College Prep at a very difficult time for me. I was suffering crippling anxiety and was depressed. College Prep was something to look forward to every day – and still is. You should be so proud of what you've achieved.
But what I really want to say, is THANK YOU to all the other commenters. It's not often that we see such outpourings of positivity and female encouragement on the internet. It is SO refreshing to read so many comments that have nothing but supportive words for Carly AND each other. I think we all go through similar trials and tribulations, and I love this community of love, support and nurturing that has flourished here. This community of supporters is truly uplifting.
Bravo to you, Carly, and bravo and thank you, to each and every one of you who has commented or supported each other in ways big or small.
x
Hey Carly, thanks so much for sharing this post! I'm a daily reader and I'm sure this was a hard post for you to write! I'm so sorry to hear about some of the rude and ignorant comments you've been getting! Just know that you have a huge following of girls who you inspire and who enjoy this blog and everything you post soo much! I agree, sometimes it's a great thing to take off the make-up and show you're real self! I've enjoyed seeing the real you, no make-up or anything, but even with the make-up and perfectly posed pictures I still feel like you have always been real on this blog!
One, you are gorgeous. That picture of you is not only courageous to put up, but a true show of beauty and honesty that I believe a lot of women both in college and not will take to heart.
Two, I never thought you had a perfect life. I just thought to found the secret to making everything seem put together and as near perfect as perfect can be. Thank you for being real. I love when bloggers take the time to do so. I am just sorry that it came under the circumstances of those nasty comments.
Keep doing what you do!
I loved this post. I am a huge fan of your blog and the kind of humility you showed is truly inspring.
I work with special ed kids (of all functioning levels) and I have to constantly watch others pass judgement on them. They have really taught me so much. It's so easy to make up your mind about someone because of the few things you know about them, when in reality there is so much more than what meets the eye. I hate that you had to experience such juvenile, ignorant judgement. However, I hope your post serves as a reminder to everyone that there is more to a person than what you see on the surface. Thanks for sharing.
P.S. We have the exact same birthday, and that makes me really happy.
I LOVE this, Carly! I enjoy your other posts about inspirations and fashion, but THIS is the real reason you were meant to blog. You're the inspiration now. And I have thoroughly enjoyed watching you grow. (I'm just sorry you've had to learn some of it the hard way.) Thank you for such a raw & open post!
this was an amazing post – it completely touched base with how i feel pretty much daily. don't let people who want to take time out of their day to be mean and judgmental take time out of yours! your blog is amazing and inspiring for so many people, don't change a thing!
xo
Tara
shoesillneverhave.blogspot.com
This is such a beautiful and brave post to do! You are so open and honest on your blog and you haven't given a false impression that you have a picture perfect life. And I totally agree everyone is entitled to their own sense of privacy and the decide what parts of their life they share or don't share. Besides what fun would something be if we didn't have a special moment or secret that we keep just to ourselves for our own happiness or personal growth. Wonderful post!
Lauren,
http://www.atouchofsoutherngrace.com/
this was hands down my most favorite of your posts that you have ever done. You are truly an inspiration … so real and tangible. ''
xo, Kira
apairofchicpearls.blogspot.com
Carly,
First of all, kudos girl. This is just one more post to prove why in fact you are so popular…you ARE relatable. Thank you for your honesty and openness; it is just as refreshing for us to see as I am sure it is for you.
I was just discussing with my counselor about how I have this constant feeling like I am not good enough because I don't have things all figured out and she explained to me that you will never ever have things 'all figured out'. That's the beauty of life. Life can be filled with whatever we choose, and we will constantly have new things to be 'figuring it out'
You're doing a pretty great job at this whole life thing and your blog is merely a testament of that. Keep it up 🙂
This post made me cry. You are so inspiring! You go girl! 🙂
Carly,
I just wanted to say "you keep doing you". As stupid as that sounds, you are such an inspiration to so many young women. I am a twenty-something trying to find myself and looking for the right career path and purpose in life. Your blog truly inspires me to keep working hard and that everything will turn out great post-college! Don't let anyone bring you down because you are truly amazing!
I couldn't imagine anyone hating on this blog. (Unless it's for enabling unhealthy shopping habits with promo reminders every other day!) Seriously though, I really admire your honesty and I look to your posts for extra study and organizational tips all the time! You are an inspiration 🙂
Remember the Heels
quite similar though ☺♥♥♥
You're gorgeous Carly! If people don't like your blog, they shouldn't be wasting their time reading it AND THEN criticizing it on sites like GOMI (likeeeee, do people have lives? So sad). Anyways, I don't see why anyone would hate you/your blog, you are such a real person and I thank you so much for that. Although though you might not like hearing this (your blog post from a while ago said this I think?) you are an inspiration/role model- even if we're only 3 years apart.
Meeting you at Maison Kayser two weekends ago really did show me how real you were, so as a follower who has seen you in person, I can attest to that. Thanks again Carly, keep up the amazing job! PS- I'm in LOVE with New York!!
xoxo,
Natalia
http://tastefullyprep.blogspot.com/
Dr.D.M Mahajan is an expert on cosmetic treatment. She is warning against fake acne scars treatment which do more harm than good.
I came across this blog a couple months ago and it immediately became my favorite. The main thing that stuck out to me, how real you write. I really felt like I could connect to you rather than just envy your style and/or clothes. I'm a recent college graduate trying to figure everything out and I really appreciate your honesty and candidness. This post was inspiring.
Girls will always say negative things when they are hiding behind a computer screen. You are beautiful!
Thank you so much for this post.
Sam
http://www.chicincolumbus.wordpress.com
Oh, I picked a bad day to post about my makeup being done for my birthday haha, but I support this post 1000%. It's admirable, because you didn't have to prove anything to anyone. Yet, by doing this, you've once again inspired and uplifted tons of people. We're all human and perfectly imperfect.
Since first starting with SLM to now, your blog and brand have developed into something really beautiful. I wouldn't believe anything negative I read or heard about you because you've done an incredible job representing and revealing yourself over the years. Wishing you continued success & happiness.
xoxo
You go girl!!
You are adorable! Haters gonna hate. I have four girls and one boy. Four years to twenty years old. It is a constant uphill battle for each of them to protect their hearts, minds and spirits. All the good you read and hear from family, friends and worship tends to get erased by hurtful ( jealous) words. My mother told me …Hurt people Hurt people. XO
Those big, pretty eyes!
Perfect post!
Please, share your tricks to manage anxiety. It's so comforting to me to see that you can be successful even if anxiety is a battle everyday. Maybe it can be the next Real self post? 😉
You are such a beautiful person inside and out. This blog you have created is a masterpiece don't let anyone ruin that for you. Have a lovely week! xx
Charlotte
Carly,
This post is so inspirational and you are so brave for posting it and just accepting yourself in general. I struggle so much with self acceptance and self esteem and anxiety that its hard just to leave the house. You and your blog are proof that people like us can be successful and fabulous! Thank you for being a terrific role model to girls everywhere!
Allison 🙂
Carly, I have always adored you and I have always thought you were authentic. Your life never seemed staged to me. You are a wise, hardworking,and beautiful (inside and out) person. I am old enough to be your Mom probably but I have always had admiration for you and how you handle yourself and this is no exception. I love how you just put this out there. I have gained even more respect for you than I already had. And I had a lot to begin with! Hugs, Kim
Carly, I've followed your blog since I was a lowly Freshman. You have always been an inspiration! Do not let those negative comments get to you! You're such a strong girl and you set such a great example! Keep your head up!
Brynna 🙂
I adore this. This is brave, inspiring, and infinitely classier than your naysayers. Bravo, Carly. [:
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Carly, I have followed your blog for many years now, and I can honestly say that you have never been anything but inspiring, thoughtful, and very real in your writing. You capture life's moments so beautifully and show your personality in such a fun creative way through your blog. It is always the highlight of my day to read your posts. As a fellow blogger, negative comments are hard to take, but that is why I love Eleanor Roosevelt's quote that I posted above. It serves as reminder to be the better person, and to not let the negative comments affect me on a personal level. You responded to those comments in a way that illustrates maturity and class, a skill that takes many people a very long time to perfect. Thank you for always staying true to yourself and for striving to move forward, even when others try to stand in your way. ~ Juliana [http://julianasthoughts.wordpress.com]
This has honestly been the best blog post I have ever read. You are not only so inspiring and motivating, but incredibly beautiful! Both inside and out!! I can't imagine anyone every saying anything negative about you. Ever since I started following you, you've offered so much advice and inspiration. You are the reason why I think there may be a chance for my blog to grow and become something more than it currently is. Never stop doing what you do and don't let any negativity stand in your way! Thank you for this 🙂
Cristina Marie
This has honestly been the best blog post I have ever read. You are not only so inspiring and motivating, but incredibly beautiful! Both inside and out!! I can't imagine anyone every saying anything negative about you. Ever since I started following you, you've offered so much advice and inspiration. You are the reason why I think there may be a chance for my blog to grow and become something more than it currently is. Never stop doing what you do and don't let any negativity stand in your way! Thank you for this 🙂
Cristina Marie
Hello
I respect this post a lot. It takes a lot of courage. I read a lot of blogs and truth be told, hand on my heart, yours is my favourite. I do love all things preppy, but I follow many preppy blogs full of 'pretty stuff'. The reason I like yours the best is that I can actually relate to you. You do seem real. All the other girls I follow come across as fake, they are too perfect. They are all married, seem blissfully in love, their life seems like an endless catalogue shoot of idealic locations, great outfits and nothing but ecstatic times. Their life seems like an unrealistic Disney movie, pretty to watch but not really comforting or relatable to anyone who has depth or been through a struggle. I like your blog because you do document how hard it can be to find the right career path, like you my 20s have been full or trial and error and I am still yet to know for sure who I am. I like that you post what it is like to live in the real world. I went to university too and worked in multiple jobs and industries and can relate to just trying to figure it out. My only disappointment is that I sent you a message on tumblr and you never replied. I did ask a personal question (how you met your bf or that guy friend you sometimes post about) as I too am shy and like to stay in so I always like to hear how other shy, academic people meet other people. I understand if that is too personal a question, I probably should of clarified I don't want exact details like time location etc but just a simple 'we met through friends' or 'we got chatting at a local tennis club' or whatever, any response – even just an acknowledgement of some sort such as 'I prefer not too answer that' would of been good as I am a loyal reader of your blog and was disappointed I did not get any reply. I felt like, I read your blog and the one time I ask a question I get ignored. I don't normally post questions ever so many it is normal for bloggers to ignore their followers or just reply to some questions. Anyway it's not the end of the world but I was a tad disappointed. I still like your blog though and I admire this post.
Hi Everleigh!
The reason why I've been avoiding those questions is mostly because there's a second person involved. We've talked about what we do and don't want to share… This is my job and something that I signed up for, but the other people in my life have not… so it can get a bit tricky! As a rule of thumb, I generally don't answer any "personal" questions (this goes for personal questions about me, like my GPA or whatever, and personal questions for the other person, like what to do about an eating disorder) on Tumblr. It's WAY TOO EASY to accidentally click the wrong publish button… trust me, I've done it too often in the past! So I stopped. The BEST way to get in touch with me about something personal is via email 🙂 I'm generally pretty good about getting back within three days (a week tops)!
ok thanks, fair enough, 🙂
I don't know that I can add anything more to this discussion that hasn't already been said, but I do want to let you know that more than any of your other amazing accomplishments I respect your ability to be real (stress, your "crazies," real struggles). Anyone can share their sparkly moments, but it takes a strong person to share the struggle. Always remember that people only hate what they don't understand or are jealous of. What people say about you says more about them anyway. Keep doing you! (Holy buzzwords/phrases…I'm going to stop now!)
I'm a grandmother of 6 and a high school teacher, and I enjoy your blog. Jealous, mean-spirited people put others down as their futile way to build themselves up.
Aw, this is so inspiring, Carly! I really love this post. This made my day! Thanks for this inpirational post, Carly 🙂
Zoe
http://thatszoe.blogspot.com
Love love love.
I love you the way you are!!!!
Don't let stupid and ignorant people change the way you are!
XOXO Nicole
Thanks for this, lady! You're beautiful!
I think this amazing! I think you're amazing. I love reading your blog, and everything you post!
You Go, Carly! This post took a lot of guts and it's one many can relate to. Thank you!
Taylor
The Quarter Chronicle
Thank you for posting this. I read a lot of blogs like this and I can't help but study the photos sometimes and say to myself, "Gee, these people don't have dark circles like I do…or cellulite…or these skin imperfections…or this flyaway hair like I have" And it does make me feel a little bad…Like I'm abnormal.
So inspiring!
DBH
http://www.scpearls.blogspot.com
You and I have a lot of things in common! Reading that list at the end of your post was like reading about myself. One of the things I love about your blog is that it ISN'T photoshopped and gorgeous (and I mean that in a nice way)! It's real, and that is refreshing.
Alyssa
http://www.glittertrim.com
I've been reading your blog for at least a year now, if not longer, and I can't even begin to imagine how someone can think of something nasty to say about you! Although I don't know you personally, I feel like you've been as real with us readers as you possibly can. You have a right to share what you want and honestly, I feel like you share a lot more than most bloggers do! I think you are an incredible blogger and I look forward to reading your posts every day. Keep your head high and ignore the negative comments and I hope you're still blogging for many years to come!
You're awesome! You should use the pretty popular hashtag #iwokeuplikethis 🙂
I think it's absolutely great that you are embracing your flaws and fears. It's so easy to forget that bloggers are just as real and human as their readers, especially when their lives are being portrayed through glamorous pictures. What a great inspiration you are to others, as well as myself.
Wonderful and very inspiring post! I have had social anxiety for many years now and it is something that should be talked more in public. Although it is sometimes hard having anxiety I always try to be positive and find things which would make me more relaxed and calm. Before I just tried get rid of the anxiety but now I have learned to cope with it little by little. It is wonderful and really brave to share who you really are. Also you have so nice style and blog!! 🙂
http://classicstyleinspirations.blogspot.com/
I came back to re-read this post, because I find it so refreshing in a world of gorgeous Instagram photos (that obviously are not showing the piles of clothes on the side of the room).
Thanks for being real!
Alyssa
http://www.feathersandstripes.com
This is incredibly late, but one of the truest and most thoughtful posts I've ever read. I aspire to have your integrity and grace as I attempt to being my own blogging career.
You're an absolute inspiration to me (and not just because we share the same name).
I hope life is treating you well still, and I look forward to all that is in the future for you.
Best,
Carly
Carly, I've been following your blog as an inspiration and you're one of my favorite reads! Sometimes I just go through your older posts (hence how I found this one) and by the time I got to the bottom I was starting to tear up. It hit me the most when you went through the facts of your real self (because I have some of those issues as well, especially the anxiety). You are so nice through your blog and I've never looked at you as fake just because you post edited pictures; like you've said, this is your business! You are such an inspiration to me Carly! You're on my list of "Bloggers I want to meet someday" and I hope you continue to thrive online! You're beautiful, unique, smart and just so genuine. I can't wait to read more from you!
Lauren | The Arizona Prepster
Just stumbled across this past blog post as I was reading your blog post for today (as I started reading your blog this year, I missed this post!) This is exactly WHY I read your blog- you're real and genuine to us readers. Your fashion, "on my radar", and more are great, but this really hit a place in my heart! When I reached the bottom of the post I had tears in my eyes! You're such an inspiration to a young girl like me, and I found many similarities. (As I too have acne scars, poofy hair, get excited about little things, and get anxiety often.) And this all made me think of the Dr. Suess quote "You are you, and there is no one youer than you!" Keep doing YOU Carly! Hope to meet you someday.
Love,
Ashley
Hi Carly,
I own Winding River Clothing and have been in business since 1996. I liked your video on tying scarves and was wondering if you could do a video for me to put on my website. I could send you the purses and scarves. I liked your clean and genuine look. I look forward to hearing from you. Thanks, Maria