Maxie and I are very different in a lot of ways, but we also have some of the same quirks. I think that following rituals is one thing we both do– and love. For me, it’s all about taking a few small moments throughout the day to slow down, decompress, and gain perspective.
5 Rituals That Might Make Life Better
Guest post by Maxie McCoy
I don’t know about you, but my I don’t feel like I truly get into the groove of the new year until mid-to-late January. Even though everyone is talking about resolutions and goals and being “your best self” right at the turn of the year (myself included), I find that it takes a few weeks to feel the freshness of the next lap around the sun to feel what really matters. And how to go about getting that done.
When it comes to making changes in the coming year, changes that matter to us– like a better outlook, or a healthier lifestyle, or chasing our dreams– it doesn’t happen like a light switch, as in all of a sudden we’re “doing it.” Rather, all of those changes happen in tiny decisions day in and day out.
One of my favorite ways to stick to those small, intentional decisions is through rituals. Now I know sometimes that word can bring to mind heavily religious or spiritual tones, but that’s not it at all. Simply, rituals are the little things that allow us to be more productive and intentional. It’s about how we do things. And if our well-being is a constitution of the things we repeatedly do, then rituals are how we implement those small steps that ladder up to great change.
I’ve written some of my favorite rituals below. Take a read and then use this workbook to create powerful, personal rituals.
1. Light a candle, make a wish
If you’re someone who loves candles lit in your room or apartment, don’t miss the opportunity to send your love and strength to someone who might need it. When we were little we used to make so many wishes, but why hasn’t that continued into adulthood? Candles and wishes are a great way to bring good thoughts for others into your daily routine.
2. Practicing gratitude
This practice has been one of the greatest rituals I’ve committed to. Every night I write down three things I’m grateful for. It anchors you in the goodness in your life even when days are bad and times are troubling. Gratitude is shown to have positive impacts on our joy, so making a ritual around it is powerful.
3. Bookend the day
The most powerful rituals happen around the beginning and the end of your day. Whether it’s stretching every morning or sleeping with your phone in another room at night, think about how you can make the bookends of your day more peaceful and powerful. And develop a ritual accordingly.
4. Enjoying, really enjoying, your tea + coffee
Most people like a good coffee or tea during the day, so why not make a ritual to savor it in quiet. Or to drink slowly without running around or having a device in your hand while you do
5. Daily 3 and monthly 1
Rituals can make you far more productive, and this practice helps ya get sh*t done. Every month, think about the big thing you want to get done and jot it down. Then, daily, before you hop on your phone or email, write down the three things that must get done that day. It’ll help you prioritize the important stuff in a sea of never ending tasks.
Rituals have the power to make your life far better. Take the time to create your own (this workbook should help) and let us know what new rituals you’ll be trying out this year!
This was such great post!! I totally agree about taking some time to get into the groove. For me, the end of the year is always a big rush and so in the past I resent myself for not getting a head start on 1/1. But now I think, you know what? I am going to ease myself into the year. If I don’t write out my resolutions until 1/4, so be it!
I like the candle idea, I even just leave candles open and unlit sometimes because it still leaves me inspired. My rituals for this year include daily journaling and reading daily!
I like the idea of point 5 – daily threes and monthly ones. I’m going to try and incorporate it into my ritual.
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I loved this post! I’ve never been the kind of person to have rituals, but I feel like I should start. I really like the idea of practicing gratitude every day and the Daily 3 and Monthly 1. Thanks for sharing!
-Helen
http://www.sweethelengrace.com
The daily 3 and monthly 1 rule is key! It is a real savior for people like me who tend to schedule too much and to end up doing nothing the whole day cause the work is overwhelming.
xx Ana http://www.disasterdiary.de
Love the idea of making a wish whenever you light a candle. I always have them on but never thought to make the lighting into a ritual, such a lovely idea!
– Natalie
http://www.workovereasy.com
I am a late January refocuser as well! I think it’s ok to let the intentional goal setting marinate for a few weeks. 🙂 I love all these rituals. A morning and evening full of slow goodness and gratitude makes all the difference!
xoxo,
Catherine: Classic Catherine
#2 and #4 are things I already practice. For #5, I already do the daily 3, but I haven’t thought about the monthly 1! I think having a monthly 1 would keep me from productively procrastinating 😛 #1 is so sweet! I wonder how much magic that would add to my day 🙂 -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s
I’m totally in the boat of not feeling like I’m into my New Years groove until the end of the month! I love the idea of Daily 3 and Monthly 1- it’s such a clever way of getting things done!
I start every morning with a gentle yoga sequence. It’s so good for waking up my body and setting the tone for the day. I also thoroughly enjoy my coffee!!!
I really enjoyed this post and it came at the right time. I’ve been really wanting to live more intentionally and want to create more rituals in my life. The workbook looks like it’ll really help! Thanks 🙂
Kylie <3
Livingwhimsicaldreams.blogspot.com
I love these ritual ideas. These are all things that I need to be better about doing and this will be my motivation to do so! Thanks for sharing!
Taylor | http://www.livingtaylored.com
Love this post from Maxie! I definitely want to try the “lighting a candle” ritual. And it would probably do me more good to be off my phone and social media as I enjoy my coffee.
X,
Cristina / cristinawashere.com
I also try to practice gratitude every day.
I love the idea of making a wish on a candle, there is something so innocent about it that I love. I am definitely going to start doing this.
xo, Kelsey | petiteinherpearls.blogspot.com
I love these! I really need to start bookending the day more and prioritizing those times. xo Devon Seventeen Dresses
I always love these posts because they are such great reminders to slow down. I love enjoying my tea every morning, quietly on the couch without any distractions. It’s the best way to start the day, especially a Monday with intensions for the week!
xo Bryn
http://www.waketonroad.com
I have also been keeping a gratitude journal which I write in every night and I love it so much! I do feel like I need to be a little more disciplined with my morning/night rituals so that’s what I’m working on now! ♥
Amy // snippetsofamy.co.uk
I love the idea of savoring coffee. I drank my cup of coffee today and enjoyed it so much that I made another straight after and just sat and appreciated it hehee! Most of the time I have to either gulp it down or I forget about it and it goes cold or I don’t let it cool and burn myself hahaaa!
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Victoria
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I am a nurse, and I work 12 hour shifts. It is absolutely exhausting, especially in the ICU I work in. I was so glad to read this post, because I honestly feel that my list of goals for 2017 keeps growing and I am never going to be able to complete my (relatively small) personal list. It is refreshing to hear someone else say, take baby steps. And it really is all about how you approach your goals. Thank you for this uplifting piece.
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I love everything about this! It is definitely hard sticking with New Years Resolutions because in your head you want to make a sudden change and be a new person, but we don’t know exactly how to make that happen. This year I’ve wanted to be better at establishing a daily routine, so I love the idea of “bookending” your days. I also like the Daily 3 and Monthly 1, which I’ve sort of been doing now that I have a daily planner, but will have to focus on more! Thanks for the great advice! 🙂
xo, Taylor
http://www.taylorashleyblog.com
Love this post ! and i’m glad i’ve found your blog!!! I love it !!!! xoxo
Pauly
Love these! Taking time to really enjoy my coffee in the morning really makes my day better haha!
xoxo,
Katie
chicincarolina.blogspot.com