I was talking to one of my
coworkers (seriously, that’s such a weird thing to say) friends about how different people have different personalities. Well, that much is obvious. She was saying how her boyfriend loves to be alone and how she loves to spend time with friends (and how they’re a perfect match that way). I definitely fall into the “I need a lot of alone time” category.
I love to be alone and do things alone.
Of course, I love spending time with friends though too!!! And, while I tend to go to an event alone at least once a week, I still get a little nervous. I wish I had the confidence to walk into an event without a sidekick, but maybe that will come eventually (?).
I often get scoffed at when I mention that I go to dinner alone or the movies alone. Even if it’s not your thing, it’s definitely something I recommend you trying at least once. Maybe twice to really get the hang of it. I love it because you can do a lot of thinking and completely unwind.
[Side note: One thing that’s on my doesn’t-actually-exist-except-for-in-my-head bucket list is to travel abroad alone. I think it would be really fun! And I’d totally ask other tourists to take pictures of me. HA.]
If you want to give it a try, here are my Five Ways to Enjoy Spending Time Alone:
1) Bring a book (or people watch) | I personally like to people watch. If anything, I’ll write some lists of upcoming things. Sometimes, rarely though, I read. Having a book, even if you’re not planning on reading, serves as a security blanket of sorts. It’s nice to know that you have something to keep yourself occupied should you get bored (or maybe lonely).
2) Completely unplug and disconnect | If you’re refreshing your Twitter feed constantly… you’re not really experiencing the whole point of going out alone! I swear, just doing this will make your outing feel more rejuvenating than a trip to the spa. (Constantly being “connected” is exhausting… this is the perfect excuse for a little break.)
3) Wear something chic and cute | I love wearing fun little outfits. I always feel so much more confident! Walking into a room alone, or dining alone, feels a little better when you’ve got some killer shoes on.
4) Take yourself on the perfect date | Don’t wait for a significant other to take you on the date of your dreams. Have you been dying to try a new popup restaurant and can’t convince any of your friends to go? What about that movie your S.O. is refusing to see? Make a date of it.
5) Wear lipstick and smile at strangers | One side effect of going out alone is that sometimes people may feel “sorry” for you for being alone. (Confession, I do feel a little sad when I see people eating alone… even though I do this ALL. THE. TIME.) You don’t have to wear lipstick (remember me?) but it’s definitely a good reminder to SMILE!!!
Do you spend time alone? Have you ever gone to dinner or a restaurant for dinner alone?