Admittedly, I’m not the trendiest person. I wear what I like, even if it means wearing variations of the same things over and over again, which I am very much guilty of doing. It’s not that I don’t appreciate trends though; for the most part, I do. I look enviously at girls who can pull off just about anything in such an effortless, “cool girl” way.
But I look at trends and sometimes just don’t get them (like the crazy “throwback” sneakers I’m seeing everywhere) and other times I just don’t believe I can pull them off… at all.
Enter ~the jeans~.
My family came to visit me when I was still living in Connecticut last December. Our trips are always pretty low key and involve just being together, usually with zero plans whatsoever. This one was a little different as they were meeting my boyfriend’s parents for the first time, I bought tickets to see Dear Evan Hansen on Broadway, and my sister requested a trip to the Brandy Melville store (haha). I kind of knew about Brandy Melville only because I have an absolute fascination with Musers (if you know, you know) and can’t stop watching their Youtube channels because it’s so…. crazy. They wear a lot of Brandy Melville.
We popped into the store after breakfast and my sister picked out a few things and more or less forced me to try ~the jeans~ on. Nothing about these jeans seemed like me from the mom cut to the frayed hem. But somehow, I kind of liked them. My sister and my mom’s opinions also mattered to me and between the three of us, with some extra heavy coaxing from my sister, I did it.
For five long months, the jeans would sit in my closet with the tags still on. At one point, I considered what the return policy was and if I could get away with a return so long after the sale. My sister would touch base every once and a while and ask if I had pulled the trigger yet.
Two big things kept me from wearing them. The first was shoe options. The jeans are different than what I’m used to so I wasn’t sure what shoes would even work. I had tried them on at the store wearing a pair of boots my sister lent me, but I didn’t have something comparable. Every once in a while, I’d put the jeans on and try on various shoes. Nothing seemed to work and I’d give up for the day and the jeans would return to my closet, tags still affixed. Finally, I tried them on with sandals and thought, okay this could work. But spring was months away and I’d kind of be dressing like someone who wasn’t totally “me.”
The second thing was that I just didn’t feel confident enough to wear them. They’re so outside of my comfort zone and I know I was holding myself back from trying something new.
When I bought these shoes, that is when everything started to click for me. I a) had a pair of shoes that actually worked with the jeans and b) still felt like I was being true to myself in the process.
I texted my sister, got her stamp of approval on the outfit, and (bam!) I was wearing the jeans. The funny thing is that I had been so concerned about feeling self-conscious and yet when I was actually wearing them for real, I felt a boost of confidence!
I don’t see myself jumping on every bandwagon that pulls around the corner, but now I know I can be a little more openminded about trends.
I’ve been so into tying scarves around my neck. I tend to get a few DMs whenever I do an Insta Story with one on about how to tie it. I did a Youtube video with my “method” (it’s super easy) plus a few ways I like to accessorize with scarves.
This is, without a doubt, going to be my bag of the summer. It’s a little smaller than I’d typically go for (unless it’s an ebook on my phone, a book will sadly not fit inside), but oh do I love it with its perfect little shape. Do not be surprised when I end up posting it in just about every single outfit post from now until Labor Day.
- * Same print, but that one is a little bigger I believe… I bought mine last year!