Earlier this week, I met up with Mackenzie and Fred for drinks after (my) work. Considering they both work for themselves (#entrepreneurship), I made them coordinate around my schedule… and location. Because sometimes I’m just high-maintenance like that.
It’s always fun to catch up with other bloggers (even if you just spent all weekend with them). Of course, it’s also fun when one of the bloggers happens to be a photographer. Convincing him take our pictures is seriously half the fun.
I’m really happy to have this little (and she really is little at just barely 5′ 2″) one nearby in the city!!! One of the hardest things about moving to a new city was the idea of having to make friends. I knew a bunch of people who lived here… but they weren’t really close friends. It seemed like my entire graduating class of Georgetown swarmed to New York. I had family friends. And a few older girls from my high school. But friends, in my opinion, are what make a city truly your home. (That, and your local “spot”….)
I made quick friends with everyone I work with, which is a huge help. However, you definitely need friends outside of work. (Especially when you work in a tech start up. Things can get crazy and sometimes you just need your space and someone to talk to about everything and anything besides work.) Blogging in general has absolutely been a wonderful way to make friends. Most of the girls that I’m friends with are people who I “met” initially by following along on their blogs. Then Twitter. Then meeting at some crazy “blogger” event. The friends I’ve made have make all the drama around blogs (yes, blog drama exists… sadly) worth it.
We have mutual interests. We understand what each of us means when we say our email inboxes give us anxiety. We are okay with putting the word “hashtag” in front of words randomly during a conversation. And we are so supportive of standing on a chair to get that Instagram just right. The blogging community has really been a fun networking community for myself.
My friends in NYC make this bustling city feel smaller and even (dare I say it…) quaint.
Some of my non-blogging friends have made friends through religious organizations, volunteering, the Junior League, and even just friends with the girls next door.
This fall, I moved all the way across the country (from Austin to Boston) for grad school. Luckily, I moved here with my college roommate. But even with the built-in security blanket of having her here, I still really wanted to branch out and make new friends as well. The best advice I got regarding making friends in a new city is "just say yes", because if you say no to a new invitation, you might not get another one. Whether someone invited me to try a new restaurant, go shopping, or go to a lecture or networking event, I made an effort to "say yes", get out of my comfort zone, and just go. Eight months later, I am glad to say that this process paid off 🙂
The main way I make friends is by playing sports. When I interned the past two summers, I made sure I signed up for after work volleyball. I never turn down the opportunity to play in a three on three basketball tournament or an open gym. Recently, I've had the itch to become a serious runner and I've been looking into running groups to join, which will be another great way to make friends!
Have you thought about joining the Junior League? I joined (in DC at the time) at your age and have made most of my close friends that way. I know you are super crazy busy with very little down time. But I think you might really enjoy the opportunity to do some community work and network with a new group of women. The JLNYC is huge and has so many opportunities. Plus, when you are in the JL, you are able to transfer to other leagues if you ever move to a new city or country. Instant friends and resources! I think making friends as an out of school adult is sooo difficult- you should look into it.
I second joining the Junior League, it's a great way to meet other ladies and give back to the community. When I first moved to my current city, my office was very small with only one other woman. Through Junior League, I met a ton of other friends, and for me it was crucial to meet people outside of my line of work. Looking back, I wish I spent more time in my middle 20's away from work.
I definitely plan on joining the Junior League once I get out of law school. Hopefully I will meet some friends at my new job also. I am studying abroad next semester and I am going all by myself so I am definitely nervous but hopefully I will become fast friends with my roommates (whoever they turn out to be) and the other exchange students!
love your look and that you girls are wearing matching shoes, so cute!! next year I will hopefully be in university, which I am excited and nervous for. I want to join a lot of clubs to hopefully find some really good uni mates 🙂 xx http://anoddgirl.blogspot.com.au
New York can definitely be a challenging city to make friends in. I'm lucky in that a couple of my best girlfriends from Montana actually moved here as well, but I've loved the ability to make friends with people from all over that came to New York to start their life! I wouldn't trade the community I've built here for anything!
I definitely am really close with two of my coworkers – one works in my team and the other works in a different team – and it's really nice that we can talk about work. But I wish I had a close friend outside of work I could hang out with.
I do have a group of friends from my sorority alumnae group, but none that are close enough yet I can just call up on Saturday morning to go out to brunch with. I know it'll happen soon/eventually, so I'm just enjoying the ride in the meantime!
i have lived in the same city my whole life but really want to move. the thing i am most worried about is making friends. finding quality friends is really hard. it looks like you have found a great friend in mackenzie! you are lucky to have her!
Having moved cross-country twice I have a lot of experience with this. The first time I wasn't so lucky and barely made any worthwhile friendships in three years. It was hard. This time, I was so much luckier. Met one awesome lady who introduced me to her whole circle and we all fit together well. So thankful for that!
Moved across the country once for school and am now doing it again for summer work, so this post is SUPER relevant to my life right now. This will be the first time I'm living right IN a city so I'm excited about the potential for meeting new people.
I have been calling myself a Chill Mom™️ since having Jack and now I’m realizing that I’m even chiller with Rory. (Like is birth order really less about sibling order and more about the version of mom you’re born to?) I’ve been just rolling with Rory’s infancy and I’m so much happier. Maybe it’s just that I’m more tired with a toddler too, or know that it’s going to go by so fast, or just have more confidence… probably a combination. I feel less obsessive and less stressed out by the details. I’m “making it” without having to fake it. As an example, today I noticed I hadn’t tracked a single nap- just watching sleepy cues and trying to get to a “good enough” pattern as Rory’s naps consolidate. Is he following a ~perfect~ nap schedule? No. Are we thriving? Frankly, yes!
(If you want to read my original Chill Mom post, comment “chill mom” and l’ll send it to you via DM!)
We came, we saw elephants, we ate ice cream 🐘🦒🦓 @ashleybrooke and I always talk about how we became FAST friends. Somehow we have been right there with each other during some of life’s worst moments… so it’s extra sweet that we now get to celebrate the good ones! Watching our boys play together, a little baby in a stroller, and another baby on the way… it’s everything we dreamed of.
Somehow yesterday felt like a week, last month was last year, and last year was a decade ago… but then time is simultaneously going by so fast too. The past ten weeks have gone by in a blink! Everyone warns you it goes by fast and they’re not wrong…. The days are long but oh how I wish time would slow down a bit? Or that maybe I could bottle up a tiny bit of these precious boys at every stage so I could revisit them down the road 🤍
I have grown to LOVE baby wearing. Not only do I think it’s such a nice and cozy way to bond with baby, it’s also incredibly practical, especially when you have a toddler to keep up with too! The @wildbird aerial carrier was a treat for myself- and I’m so obsessed with it. 👶🏼 Leave a comment “wildbird” and I’ll DM you the color I have as well as my personal review of it (including some troubleshooting tips).
Some top level things I like; - it’s easy to put on! - it’s so, so comfortable (for me AND baby!) - the little flap is seamless and provides extra support while baby naps and privacy when we need/want it
This affordable rechargeable LED lamp is cute and then made even cuter with this wicker lampshade! 💡✨ No cords needed- just charge and place wherever you want. (Will be extra perfect for dining outdoors this summer!) 💫 Comment “lamp” and I’ll send you links to the LED lamp ($38 for a pair!) and the lampshade (available in a few styles- including a darling blue).
Not really in the mood to be in photos right now, but I keep telling myself I’ll want to look back on these moments and remember them. (Right?!) when I look at these photos in 10, 20, 30 years…
I hope I remember Jack “rescuing” Rory from a windy tent, not how I stood in front of my closet with tears in my eyes.
I hope I remember watching Jack roll down hills and play hop scotch and scoot down the sidewalk with his besties, not that I caught a glimpse of my reflection and didn’t recognize myself.
I hope I remember sitting outside with my friend happily watching our kids play (while watching the minutes until bedtime tick by), and not that I spent too much time zooming in and examining every new wrinkle on my face.
I hope I remember the pure joy of these early warm days with my little family whom I love so much 🤍
The weather is warming up and I’m feeling slightly more comfortable in my skin every day ☀️ Here’s what I wore last week as a mom of two. I have a two and a half year old toddler and a two month old so I need outfits I feel good in, can chase a little guy around in, AND that I can breastfeed easily while wearing. 🔗 Leave a comment with “OUTFITS” to get links to every outfit I wore!
This room is so very special 🤍 The little cars sprinkled everywhere (watch your step!). A tiny sock, never two, peeled off and tucked somewhere hidden away. Piles of books that grow almost as quickly as the little boy who sleeps here. Outgrown pants and shoes to grow into mingling in the closet. Often messy, and a little cluttered, but a little boy lives here. 🚘☀️🐶📚🧸
(Rory is still in our room, but eventually the boys will share. I can picture their little twin beds already!)
This fall, I moved all the way across the country (from Austin to Boston) for grad school. Luckily, I moved here with my college roommate. But even with the built-in security blanket of having her here, I still really wanted to branch out and make new friends as well. The best advice I got regarding making friends in a new city is "just say yes", because if you say no to a new invitation, you might not get another one. Whether someone invited me to try a new restaurant, go shopping, or go to a lecture or networking event, I made an effort to "say yes", get out of my comfort zone, and just go. Eight months later, I am glad to say that this process paid off 🙂
The main way I make friends is by playing sports. When I interned the past two summers, I made sure I signed up for after work volleyball. I never turn down the opportunity to play in a three on three basketball tournament or an open gym. Recently, I've had the itch to become a serious runner and I've been looking into running groups to join, which will be another great way to make friends!
Have you thought about joining the Junior League? I joined (in DC at the time) at your age and have made most of my close friends that way. I know you are super crazy busy with very little down time. But I think you might really enjoy the opportunity to do some community work and network with a new group of women. The JLNYC is huge and has so many opportunities. Plus, when you are in the JL, you are able to transfer to other leagues if you ever move to a new city or country. Instant friends and resources! I think making friends as an out of school adult is sooo difficult- you should look into it.
KK
I second joining the Junior League, it's a great way to meet other ladies and give back to the community. When I first moved to my current city, my office was very small with only one other woman. Through Junior League, I met a ton of other friends, and for me it was crucial to meet people outside of my line of work. Looking back, I wish I spent more time in my middle 20's away from work.
I definitely plan on joining the Junior League once I get out of law school. Hopefully I will meet some friends at my new job also. I am studying abroad next semester and I am going all by myself so I am definitely nervous but hopefully I will become fast friends with my roommates (whoever they turn out to be) and the other exchange students!
love your look and that you girls are wearing matching shoes, so cute!!
next year I will hopefully be in university, which I am excited and nervous for. I want to join a lot of clubs to hopefully find some really good uni mates 🙂
xx
http://anoddgirl.blogspot.com.au
New York can definitely be a challenging city to make friends in. I'm lucky in that a couple of my best girlfriends from Montana actually moved here as well, but I've loved the ability to make friends with people from all over that came to New York to start their life! I wouldn't trade the community I've built here for anything!
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I just have to say that your pumps are amazing. xo!
What jacket is Mackenzie wearing? I love it!
The field jacket from j. crew: http://bit.ly/ZHUu73
Are the Etta pumps comfortable? They look adorable!
I definitely am really close with two of my coworkers – one works in my team and the other works in a different team – and it's really nice that we can talk about work. But I wish I had a close friend outside of work I could hang out with.
I do have a group of friends from my sorority alumnae group, but none that are close enough yet I can just call up on Saturday morning to go out to brunch with. I know it'll happen soon/eventually, so I'm just enjoying the ride in the meantime!
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i have lived in the same city my whole life but really want to move. the thing i am most worried about is making friends. finding quality friends is really hard. it looks like you have found a great friend in mackenzie! you are lucky to have her!
Having moved cross-country twice I have a lot of experience with this. The first time I wasn't so lucky and barely made any worthwhile friendships in three years. It was hard. This time, I was so much luckier. Met one awesome lady who introduced me to her whole circle and we all fit together well. So thankful for that!
Moved across the country once for school and am now doing it again for summer work, so this post is SUPER relevant to my life right now. This will be the first time I'm living right IN a city so I'm excited about the potential for meeting new people.