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I’M 33!

I’m 33 today!!! 33 feels like… a real adult to me. Maybe it’s because the past few years have felt a bit like suspended reality or something– turning 30 feels like a lifetime ago. I feel like 33 is basically mid-30s. And the craziest part about turning 33 specifically is that this feels like my “inner age.”

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I’ve always felt like a 33 year old woman (even as a kid!) and now that I am 33… it is kind of exactly what I expected it to be. I have never felt more myself. I think I’ve grown in confidence in doing things that I want to do in a way that feels right for me and caring a whole lot less about what others might think. It’s the best kind of liberation.

Last year, I was a brand new mom, excited to see what the future held as I was at the beginning of a very exciting– very daunting– new stage of life. It’s certainly been a rollercoaster, but I feel so good about where I am right now.

A few things I’m looking forward to in the next year:

– Letting go. There is something so humbling about parenthood in particular of having to let go of control. This is not my forte and it certainly doesn’t come naturally to me. With that said, it’s become a daily practice and I…. think (!!!) I’m improving. It’s not easy for me and sometimes it causes more stress, but for the most part? It feels good to just let go of expectations and control and to just be in the present.

– Outsourcing. Another humbling moment: realizing I can’t do it all! I am in a big outsourcing phase right now and, as much as I resisted it, I know it’s the right thing. For our family, for my business. I know my strengths and being able to build out a teams that fill in the gaps for me? It’s amazing. And it also frees up my time and energy so I can focus on the things that I am strong at and the things I do enjoy.

– Filling my cup. Speaking of things that I enjoy, I am prioritizing filling my cup. It sounds selfish at the surface level, but it’s really not. I can’t pour from an empty cup and it doesn’t take much. I’ve kind of narrowed in on three things that fill my “personal” cup beyond just spending time with friends and family: reading, needlepointing, and exercising. All kind of feel like a form of meditation to me. I can get into a flow and it doesn’t matter if I spend 20 minutes or a full hour– I walk away feeling so fulfilled and then I can be a better mother, a better partner, and a better friend.

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31 Comments

Julia

Happy birthday, Carly! I’m only 21 and relate a lot to feeling a little out of place compared to my “cool”-20-something peers but you’ve been a big inspiration to me in being more myself without caring what others think. I hope 33 is an amazing year for you!

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Regan

Happy Birthday Carly! I’m loving your 3 cornerstone habits! I’ve been working on similar focus and it really does help. Have a fantastic day!!

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Aisha

Wishing you a very happy birthday! 💕
May today and every single day forward be a fulfilling one.

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Stacey

Happy birthday! I would love to humbly and respectfully request a blog about the mental model you built for outsourcing. I need to do more myself and need some guidance to get started. Thanks for considering.

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Rebecca HT

Happy birthday! I just turned 36 last month, and words cannot express how much I love my 30s! I totally relate to the “inner-age” thing, too. I finally feel like I am exactly who and where I am supposed to be!

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Vanessa @ Living in Steil

Happy birthday, Carly! I can so relate to this post. I turned 33 a couple of years ago and felt like I was the best version of myself at that age. It was such a nice feeling to be comfortable in my skin and with myself. So glad you are getting to experience that, too!

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Libbi V.

Happy, happy birthday!! Mid-30s really is where it’s at. Cheers to your best year yet!

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Sofia Kyriakopoulou

Happy birthday. May you allways be healthy, joyfull and with all your beloved ones happy and around you.

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Mary

Happy Birthday! 🙂

I am 33 and have been reading your blog for years. I am so thankful for the beautiful journey you have shared with us. Thirty three truly looks amazing on you.

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Ira

Wish you a belated happy birthday, Carly! Love your blog for your fashion sense as well as your honesty with some of parenthood’s challenges.

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