Maxie is here today sharing such a good message. If I had to say one friend who was the most fearless, Maxie comes to mind first. I’ve watched her bravely lead meetings, speak in front of hundreds of people, and travel all around the world alone. I very much look up to her when it comes to being brave.
Scared or Not, Here You Come
Guest post by Maxie McCoy
There’s a lot of things most of us don’t do in life because we’re scared. Like really scared. We don’t say yes to that date. We don’t sign up for the school play even though we dream of being on stage. We don’t raise our hand for the solo. We don’t tell someone how we feel. We don’t see the most beautiful view because we were worried about climbing up the rocks to get there.
Fear can be a powerful thing. But only if we let it.
I’ve always envied the people that seem to constantly be doing things despite their fear. The ones who speak up for others even if it means he or she might get criticized (Carly). The ones who go jumping out of airplanes. The ones who go after huge opportunities and seem like they’re not blinking. They’re so unafraid.
I’ve always wanted to be brave like that.
Bravery has been a feeling, a virtue, that I’ve been consciously channeling into my life: to do more things because I’m moved by them regardless of what anyone thinks. I want to whip off my shirt in the middle of a super hot and sweaty workout because I just don’t give a damn. I want to say yes to bungee jumping when someone asks. I want to tell that guy I think he’s attractive, regardless of how he’ll respond. I want to forge my own path and not hide behind the security of someone else’s.
I’ve been channeling bravery so hard that I even got a prayer necklace devoted to strength and bravery (they’re called mala in the Hindu religion). I got it because I’ve been feeling fear pretty often: of the unknown, of my future, of people’s opinion, of failing.
And then I got a text message that said “Maxie, you seriously might be one of the most fearless people I know.” To which I immediately responded, “what?? no. not me. I’m scared 95% of the time.”
“Just because you are scared doesn’t mean you aren’t fearless.” She responded. And in that moment changed my entire perception of bravery.
That is it! That is the definition of bravery. To fearlessly go after the things you want in life, in spite of being scared or of feeling fear.
And that is exactly how you can be a bit braver in your own life. You have it inside of you. You just need to keep acting in spite of being scared.
We all have big fear moments. Even the people you and I both look up to like Carly, get so worked up about doing something that they’re practically sick. Even Beyonce gets nervous. Even the things you do repeatedly will scare you when you take it up a notch (like the time I went on a solo trip to India and about had a panic attack on the plane wondering what I was doing).
But the more you learn to act in spite of being scared, the bigger your life will become, the more strength you’ll find, and the braver you’ll be. Channel that brave soul of yours and don’t let anything hold you back from your dreams.
Scared or not, here you come.