I kind of feel like I’m going through a midlife “style crisis” of sorts. I don’t really think 32 is midlife (or at least I hope it’s not!), but there’s something about being in this new stage of life and in this new decade that’s really making me rethink, well, everything when it comes to personal style. From my “look,” to my wardrobe, to how we decorate our house… I’m in this phase where I want to change everything.
Unfortunately there are so many factors at play right now that I have no idea what the actual influence of this “crisis” is. Or maybe it’s a combination of many or all. We had the intense lockdown. I’m officially in my 30s. I got married. We live in the suburbs. I feel like I’m in a new stage of my career right now. I am a mom now.
And then I also have to wonder, is it because it’s getting darker earlier and cooling off as we head into winter? Have I been spending too much time on social media, being influenced by outside sources? Am I just feeling uninspired by my clothes because I don’t have the same body I did before pregnancy? Have I simply watched one too many Nancy Meyers films recently?
I do know that I feel like I know myself a little more. I’m way more comfortable in my own skin now than I ever have been. I feel older, in a nice way. So maybe it is just time to reevaluate things and rediscover what exactly is my personal style.
The original thing that tipped me off was when I was heavily, heavily gravitating towards everything in black. I usually make a wardrobe shift to black and neutrals for winter anyway, but this was happening earlier than usual. For one thing, it’s the most practical color. Everything matches and it’s great as a mom to not have to worry about stains throughout the day. There’s a gratifying, immediate chic factor, even if you’re just in jeans and a sweater, when that sweater is black.
And then? Oh man, then I started looking around the house and wanting to change everything. I’m talking everything from changing out our doorknobs to repainting the exterior of our house. It almost felt like a delayed nesting. I definitely “nested” a bit when I was pregnant, but that was mostly revolving around the baby and baby items and just getting organized. This feels like I want to do a grand sweeping cohesive redecorating.
The next thing to happen? Everyone on Instagram and TikTok starting cutting their hair into bobs and lobs. The more I see it the more I want one to go to the salon for a serious cut. (I regret short hair cuts every time though and I keep trying to remember how frustrating I find styling short hair since mine is so curly….. someone talk me off the ledge.)
Not even really sure what the point of this post is, but it’s been on my mind and I thought I’d share. Maybe I’m not the only one feeling it? I think once we get back home from Nantucket, I’m going to do a big inventory of everything. I already had the plan to go through all of my clothes and make sure what I have in my closet (and storage) are things I still love and feel good in and fit with my current season of life. I want to come up with a game plan when it comes to our house… I need to write out lists of changes I want to make and phases in which to do so. (I think our bedroom is going to be my first priority!) Even just sitting down and coming up with a good ole fashioned mood board could be helpful.
I don’t think I need to do anything too crazy right away (and I feel like I’d make a ton of mistakes I’d regret if I rushed into anything), but I can feel the need for change pretty deeply.
(But also if this is just a normal part of being postpartum, please tell me and I’ll put a big pause on everything and wait it out completely, ha!!!)