I’ve been finding myself slipping in and out of a bit of a funk recently. Part of it is that I feel like I’m right in the middle of a plateau. Not really in terms of goals, more in terms of personal growth. I typically like plateaus. Back in my rowing days, a plateau was where all the underground work or I guess foundational work would happen. They were frustrating, sure, but when you were out of that plateau it was like chia-pet growth overnight.
I’m pretty in tune with myself and my work to know what I feel like when I’m in one of these plateau periods. If I normally embrace it, what is the issue causing me to fall into a funk? Comparison!
I think a little bit of comparison is okay, but for the most part, I think everyone is different. What works for one person might not work for the other. I’m trying to remind myself of this daily. It is, of course, easier said than done.
My yoga classes have been such a good reminder of this for me. I know you’re not supposed to look around the room, instead focusing inward. However, I can’t help it. I like to peek and observe. I find it incredibly fascinating how different everyone’s bodies are– not in appearance but in capabilities. Because I tend to look at other people, I can also tend to get down on myself for not being able to do something the woman next to me can do. She might be doing a full split one minute which I am the farthest from and not able to do something that naturally feels easier to me. We’re different!
Comparison is rarely fair. The problem is that it’s so easy and so tempting to do.
Especially in a world of social media it can be easy to compare every element of your life to just about every person you’ve ever met– including people you don’t know! It’s a dangerous place out there if you have the tendency to compare yourself to others.
Unless you plan on holing up somewhere and avoiding reality, the possibility to compare will always be there.
My strategy to combat this comparison curse is twofold. I start by remembering my yoga classes so I can reassure myself that everyone is different, everyone has their own strengths, and everyone has their own weaknesses. Then, I focus as best I can on my strengths and how I can improve and work on my weaknesses.