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HELLO 2022

I love these posts about my intention every year. I’m coming in a couple of days late with this one– I usually queue it up right for New Year’s Day. But honestly? I think it’s an appropriate representation of where I am in life right now. I used to drive myself absolutely insane by getting a blog post scheduled for midnight every single day. Realistically, it’s not always going to be possible anymore. And that’s okay! Sure, it’s the goal, but I’m learning to let go of the reins a little bit. Or, well, if not “let go,” at least I’ve loosened my grip a bit. My priorities have shifted and I’m putting my energy where it needs to go.

One thing this new life chapter is forcing me to do is really to try to tackle my perfectionism. Just when I think I’ve gotten better about it, it finds me again and sinks its teeth in a little bit deeper. Unfortunately, my job doesn’t exactly help the situation. But I’m working on it– and that’s where my intention for 2022 comes in.

Last year I set the intention of taking things one day at a time. I’m not always successful with my year-long intentions, but I think I did a pretty good job of this one. Mostly out of necessity. It was a LONG year and while it was incredible, it was filled with many, many difficult moments. It’s easy to look back on the highlight reel of my 2021 and think, “wow! it was a perfect year!” And don’t get me wrong, I’d say it was the best year of my life (I mean, a baby! a book!). But it was also one of the hardest I’ve gone through. I chugged through difficult relationships with people, suffered through feeling very sick through 90% of my pregnancy, struggled to write a book, found myself brimming with anxiety during a long, snowy winter filled with political unrest. Taking things one day at a time was just what I needed to do in order to get to the other side. I celebrated the good days and I reminded myself that I just needed to focus on getting to bedtime on rough days. It was a good reminder that everything is fleeting, both the good and the bad.

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MY INTENTION FOR 2022:

FIND THE BEAUTIFUL IN THE EVERYDAY.

It’s pretty simple and can be applied in different ways, which I like. Honestly I just want to appreciate the beautiful everyday moments of life. I’ve been putting so much pressure on myself to make things feel and look perfect– and then when they inevitably don’t, I feel like an utter failure. My hope is that this helps me refocus my energy on seeking out beautiful moments that are definitely already there versus trying to manufacture “perfect” ones.

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Aziliz

I wish you a happy new year Carly! I don’t comment often but I am a regular reader and I am grateful to read you as often as you can! I have exactly the same goal as you this year! In 2021 I didn’t have the promotion I was longing for, I was really disappointed but I have to learn that it’s not really important I still like my job and have more free time keeping the same old job. I try, as well, to be less perfectionist, that’s why I won’t read twice my comment, English is not my mother tongue (I’m French), it’s ok if I make some mistakes on a blog comment!

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Holly

Love this intention for the year. It reminds me so much of the lesson from the movie About Time (on Netflix). Highly recommend a watch if you haven’t seen it before. Happy New Year!

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My Curated Wardrobe

Carly, I love this. And can so relate! Perfectionism is something I’ve been trying to tackle for some time, and this year I’m ready to “let go of the reins a little” as you said. Such a wonderful reminder & intention for 2022! Happiest New Year to you & your fam! xo

My Curated Wardrobe

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Gillian

I love this for you. <3 The way you are so self-reflective and committed to your growth as a whole person is such an inspiration. I heard this explained recently as simply looking for joy, instead of focusing on happiness, and that really stood out to me. Happy New Year!

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Janet

This is perfect. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone stopped to find something beautiful in every day?

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Hillary

I did something really similar last year and focused on creating joy in the everyday. When I’d start to feel overwhelmed I’d stop and name three things that were bringing me joy that day. It really helped me realize my life was pretty good even if things weren’t perfect.

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Katie

Love this post! I’m a fellow perfectionism sufferer too.

One thing that has changed my life was realizing that perfectionism is actually a form of OCD. I found a therapist that specializes in OCD and anxiety and….. my mind was blown. I had worked with “regular” therapists before and OCD was never mentioned so having a OCD and anxiety therapist specifically has truly changed my life it’s hard to quantify. Super small things that society likely doesn’t associate with OCD actually are.

So, for what it’s worth, figured I’d share in case it could help you in some small way!

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